Sometimes

Mishaps and Big Decisions

I yanked the door open and rummaged through the bottom drawer for a quarter of the white onion left over from yesterday’s dinner. I found it tucked away in a corner, comfortably enclosed in a ziploc bag. I grabbed the chopping board and white ceramic knife from the dish rack. I started chopping away, taking care to have uniformly diced onions.

Suddenly I got a jolt. At that instant, I knew exactly what has happened: a knife accident. Years of slicing, dicing, and chopping would eventually lead to this. I knew it would happen one day. I inspected my finger and there it was, a smooth dent at the tip of my ring finger with a little expanding red dot in the middle. I will skip the running water, cotton soaked in blood, short-breath-inducing pain and macro photography that occurred next.

Just a couple of months ago, on the routine trek back to the office after our daily take away adventure, I missed a step and tumbled down a steep flight of stairs. Two seconds and two gasps later, I landed at the foot of the stairs with my head on the ground and my feet up the stairs. My emergency supply of agility miraculously got myself to sit on the bottom step. The first thing I felt was a literal pain on my ass. Then came the soreness on my knees. I felt a hand stroking my head where I hit it. I looked down realized I was still clutching my take out. No spills. Sadly the chopsticks didn’t survive the disaster.

For the next three weeks, my knees turned to Italian eggplants while the shape of the whole of Europe and Africa was temporarily stamped on my left buttock. I had ensure I rest the uninjured butt cheek first on chairs when sitting down.

A further couple of months before that, I missed the fourth of a five-step stairs that I take everyday and fell face down on the rough concrete just outside my apartment. I was carrying a huge bag and a tripod with a book tucked under my arm while texting while stepping out of my apartment to start the day. I thought I had it all together until the ground was approaching my face. I shot my free hand out to break my fall. It didn’t. I became a proud owner of two scars at the back of my hand a week later.

A series of mishaps on my routine with no explanation other than the fact that I am a klutz—-and I call myself the responsible adult of this household. I see it as a high power being out there looking to grab my attention. Just because you’ve been doing something for years doesn’t mean you’ll always get it right. You need to pay attention and be conscious about what you do. Auto piloting is a dangerous game.

I concede. I’ll pay attention to each step from now on.

When I look up this is what I see.

When I look up this is what I see.

Don’t be a complainer: make things better or let them go.

Tina Roth Eisenberg

To Sik and Dyab.

Dyab and Sikkin. This journey is coming to an end. Soon, my environment will change and along with that, my internet habits.

Even if you weren’t physically with me these past five years (except maybe one awkward dinner when you were in town), you guys were still a big part of this…undertaking.

To Sik — my procrastinator equivalent, my biggest critic. Thanks for demanding more from my outputs, seeing through my short cuts and calling them out, for always thinking I could be better. I wish I could. Sometimes I console myself into thinking it’s only because you believe in me. I hope you do.

To Dyab. Javi. The brain and profundity I never had. You put my thoughts into words and make them bearable. I would have become broke buying useless expensive things or become another victim of clinical depression had we not hated or gotten annoyed by the same things.

You guys make staying up late and waking up early fun.

How I wish I could whip up something in the kitchen so we could all sit down to a proper meal, like a properly sliced-in-half avocado. What if I just lived down the hall?

Well then. I hope our relationship will continue to have the same dynamics even when I become a boring, unaccomplished, once-been, wannabe.

Just as important as getting started is knowing when it’s finished, and what to do next.

The marks humans leave are too often scars.


John Green

The Fault in Our Stars

There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you - of kindness and consideration and respect - not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

John Steinbeck